My husband and I have been married for nearly 30 years and have three grownup children. About seven years ago, my husband began going to the pub with colleagues after work and not coming home until late. At first I challenged him, but he would say he was under a lot of pressure at work. After a while, I gave up trying and the kids got used to not seeing him during the week. I go to bed before my husband gets back and leave for work before he gets up.
Now, I was completely underwater, trying to help my husband figure out his sexuality. We talked about it all the time: after the kids went to bed. When she discovered her husband of 20 years was gay, CB felt about it, but it was soon to become clear that the sex issue was a no-go area.